Comments on: Learning to Say “No” http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/ PHP and Other Techno-babble Mon, 01 Feb 2010 11:59:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Ehsanul Haque http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12188 Ehsanul Haque Wed, 14 Feb 2007 18:06:59 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12188 Can you all experienced people teach me how to say "NO"? Have a great time with your kid and family. Thank you and God bless. Ehsan Can you all experienced people teach me how to say “NO”? Have a great time with your kid and family.

Thank you and God bless.

Ehsan

]]> By: Sebs http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12180 Sebs Wed, 14 Feb 2007 15:18:19 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12180 saying No will get you in a position where the quality of work gets better. Especially in 90hrs a eek it can not be as good as in 50 or 60. Better Quality is better money, if not change your contractor ;) saying No will get you in a position where the quality of work gets better. Especially in 90hrs a eek it can not be as good as in 50 or 60.
Better Quality is better money, if not change your contractor ;)

]]> By: ScoobyCoo http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12172 ScoobyCoo Wed, 14 Feb 2007 13:32:50 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12172 I do exactly the same, so will me making extra sure I don't take on too much. I do exactly the same, so will me making extra sure I don’t take on too much.

]]> By: Vid Luther http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12148 Vid Luther Wed, 14 Feb 2007 07:49:03 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12148 Great post, I recently came across this revelation myself. I'm an independant contractor, tied to his office. Last month I had a main contract keeping me busy for 60 hrs/week, work for a startup that I've started, and 4 other contracts that combined kept me busy for another 30 hrs/week. Basically working 90hrs/week .. sure the money was coming in, but I wasn't enjoying it. I had to stop, and ask myself, what is important to me, my wife ? or my work ?. Plus, do I really need that much money to live ? I've been married for one year, but I realized I had treated my wife the same as I had when she was my girlfriend, she was second to my job, what a fool I was. Recently, I've started saying no to the side gigs, turning down offers, and just focusing on the main 60hr/week gig.. which is now down to 50 btw, and my startup. I already feel so much better. As for the 60hr gig, I basically told the people who hired me as a contractor that I would quit if they didn't hire more people, to my surprise, they went ahead and interviewed people and got me some help.. all I had to do was ask. It's amazing what you can get when you ask for it, or when you say no. Great post Ben. I hope others see our stories and ask themselves the same question we did. Great post, I recently came across this revelation myself. I’m an independant contractor, tied to his office. Last month I had a main contract keeping me busy for 60 hrs/week, work for a startup that I’ve started, and 4 other contracts that combined kept me busy for another 30 hrs/week. Basically working 90hrs/week .. sure the money was coming in, but I wasn’t enjoying it. I had to stop, and ask myself, what is important to me, my wife ? or my work ?.

Plus, do I really need that much money to live ?

I’ve been married for one year, but I realized I had treated my wife the same as I had when she was my girlfriend, she was second to my job, what a fool I was.

Recently, I’ve started saying no to the side gigs, turning down offers, and just focusing on the main 60hr/week gig.. which is now down to 50 btw, and my startup. I already feel so much better.

As for the 60hr gig, I basically told the people who hired me as a contractor that I would quit if they didn’t hire more people, to my surprise, they went ahead and interviewed people and got me some help.. all I had to do was ask.

It’s amazing what you can get when you ask for it, or when you say no.

Great post Ben. I hope others see our stories and ask themselves the same question we did.

]]> By: Cal Evans http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12130 Cal Evans Wed, 14 Feb 2007 03:27:33 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12130 Good for you. Speaking form experience, keep your side projects down to a minimum now that you've got a kid. Enjoy your time with Sean, there's plenty of time for programming later. =C= Good for you. Speaking form experience, keep your side projects down to a minimum now that you’ve got a kid. Enjoy your time with Sean, there’s plenty of time for programming later.

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]]> By: Mary-Louise http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12129 Mary-Louise Wed, 14 Feb 2007 03:19:14 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12129 I work for Guy Kawasaki, and I would like to thank you for your comments about Guy and his Art of Innovation presentation! Mary-Louise Online Assistant http://blog.guykawasaki.com/ Mary-Louise@garage.com I work for Guy Kawasaki, and I would like to thank you for your comments about Guy and his Art of Innovation presentation!

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]]> By: Learning to say ‘No’ | Azrul on Software/Business/Whatever http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12123 Learning to say ‘No’ | Azrul on Software/Business/Whatever Wed, 14 Feb 2007 01:42:08 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12123 [...] Somehow, I found this blog entry at the perfect moment. I have the bad habit of being unable to say “no” when something comes along that I think will be a good opportunity. The truth is: I just don’t want a good opportunity to pass me by that I will regret later. The problem is that, in accepting these opportunities, I’ve caused myself to become needlessly overwhelmed, and I’ve even hurt my relationships with other people because I’ve let them down, being unable to pull through and finish certain things. [...] [...] Somehow, I found this blog entry at the perfect moment. I have the bad habit of being unable to say “no” when something comes along that I think will be a good opportunity. The truth is: I just don’t want a good opportunity to pass me by that I will regret later. The problem is that, in accepting these opportunities, I’ve caused myself to become needlessly overwhelmed, and I’ve even hurt my relationships with other people because I’ve let them down, being unable to pull through and finish certain things. [...]

]]> By: Derelict http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/comment-page-1/#comment-12098 Derelict Tue, 13 Feb 2007 23:13:44 +0000 http://benramsey.com/archives/learning-to-say-no/#comment-12098 Amen brother, I just recently took a job after being an entrepreneur with numerous clients and side projects for the past 5 years. The freedom you get from saying "no" can be truly liberating. I actually have more time for my family, less stress and in the end I can write better code or better yet, empower someone else to do so. Amen brother, I just recently took a job after being an entrepreneur with numerous clients and side projects for the past 5 years. The freedom you get from saying “no” can be truly liberating. I actually have more time for my family, less stress and in the end I can write better code or better yet, empower someone else to do so.

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